Now and then in life we all get a little bit angry or unhappy and it is an entirely normal part of living! But if you find yourself experiencing excessive anger more than often or experiencing a deep depression (that leads to suicidal thoughts), then this is an entirely different matter for serious consideration and professional treatment.
At its core, life is intended to be experienced at its fullest! So that means taking everything on offer with both the good and the bad, without fixating on just one aspect. In life, we all know that there will be both the nice and easy enjoyable moments, just as there will be the harder ones too, which will inevitably test our spirit, will and determination.
The problem isn’t so much within life itself and challenges presented to us, but in how we choose to interpret their meaning, and in the kind of support system we have around us, to help us overcome. The true issue arises when we find ourselves stuck in a repetitive dynamic of fixed emotion that won’t allow balance. When this happens, problems begin and suffering starts.
There is a great quote by internationally acclaimed motivational speaker Tony Robbins where he says ‘problems in life are inevitable, suffering is optional’. What he’s saying is that, it’s unrealistic to expect an easy, breezy, carefree existence full-time. However, if we are realistic, and anticipate problems, understanding that they are a normal part of life, then we can reduce the weight of impact and stress presented as a result.
However! When faced with ongoing and persistent suffering, in the forms of either excessive anger, or suicidal thoughts, no amount of ‘positive thinking’ or motivational talking is generally sufficient to remove the inner burden of pain.
Thankfully, in the society we live in today, coming out to mental healthcare professionals and discussing personal pain and struggles is much more acceptable and understood. That’s why we have come up with this simplified guideline for support, when dealing with ongoing adversity. There is help available and there are tools and strategies to not only manage uncomfortable issues, but to address them at the root too.
How to Control Excessive Anger
Just as it is unnatural to be happy all the time, so too is it unnatural to experience excessive anger full-time too! Not only is it draining and exhausting but it’s unhealthy for the spirit, mind and body.
Recent research suggests that anger and happiness are actually measurable in frequency. That means, it’s a real and tangible thing that not only affects you, but others too!
A big component of anger is often a heavy underlying fear or overall frustration. The fears of things like not feeling good enough in a job, relationship or pursuit can be crippling and if not acknowledged and dealt with, can lead to intense anger and a sense of isolation. Similarly, frustrations from set-backs, failures, mistreatment from others and even mistreatment of self can all contribute to a persistent undercurrent of anger.
It is when the deep-rooted issues are confronted with love and honesty, in a safe space (either writing in a diary, talking to a trusted friend or mental health professional), that grieving, healing and eventually joy can take its place. But it takes time, isn’t easy and will certainly include setbacks, better aware than not, right?
With continued assertive effort, open communication and by starting to re-engage in activities which you enjoy (for example art classes, walking on the beach every morning, playing an instrument), you will start establishing a new routine for the mind and for your heart. A new wave of emotions that you can refer to, in future times of need. They say that routine rules everything and in the case of mental health, it may be true! Exercise, talking and doing things you love, are all a part of getting back on track to a happier more joyful existence (which you so deserve!).
How to Control Suicidal Thoughts
Suicide used to be a more taboo topic than we find it today. Today, around the world we find suicide awareness hash tags on twitter, special days for acknowledgement and a much more open mental healthcare system overall, that understands the importance of acting swiftly.
While suicide rates continue to climb worldwide, year by year, what is helping is that counseling services have become much more accessible for children to adults.
It must be noted with high importance that, suicidal thoughts are not to be dismissed. In general it indicates a kind of apathy, deep pain, worthlessness or fear of no way out.
While feelings can be entirely overwhelming and feel ‘true’ as if to be fact, we know that our emotions routinely fool us. A whole manner of things can complicate emotions, from hormones to stress, diet to environment and relationships and genetic traits.
Some people are more pre-disposed to depression (which is generally a precursor to suicidal thoughts) than others. Which is why the best course of action for this particular issue, is to seek to speak with a family practitioner, counselor or trusted friend who you feel safe and comfortable with. It is not recommended to deal with this experience alone, due to the potential severity of the issue.
More important than anything is to know this: you are not alone, there is help and people DO care! All it takes is reaching out to just one person who you trust, to make a world of difference, slowly, but surely.
Yours in Health and Wellbeing
Written by Abby Kempe ,edited by SiteMaster