I was driving down the road to my office at a steady pace.It was a Monday morning and i was already late, been a little hungover from the bottle of whiskey i drank alone as all my friends were busy with their lives(some with their wives),I drove slowly and steadily towards the meetings, appointments and all other crap which i knew were going to suck away my life.
While i was driving down the highway i noticed a car speeding on my rear view mirror, the car was at least doing 180 and was moving fast.I gave way to the car only to find it was stuck in the traffic as soon as the highway finished and normal city traffic came into existence.That guy was a madman and was honking at everybody, i didn’t liked him the minute i saw him on my rear view mirror but because he cut me off i was a little agitated.I came behind him and honked like he did and i could sense a little rivalry boiling up inside both of us out of no reason.As soon as the traffic cleared up there was yet another highway which came and here we started competing with each other unprovoked.We were both driving side by side touching at least 190, my car was literally up in tears and i could sense the accelerator peddle crying for mercy, I never had done such a thing, but at that moment a wild beast had taken over me and i was fighting for a misplaced sense of pride which i was not able to explain to myself rather it felt so real,exciting and alive.
Very soon our rivalry ended as he had to take a flyover to go across the city and i had to take a u-turn under the flyover.It is then i realized,the amount of madness that we both exhibited was of no use as both our destination was different.He was driving to some different destination, had something urgent in his mind and was totally operating out of the context that only he knows, who knows he had an emergency at home, who could tell.I on the other side was totally engaged in rivalry mode without the slightest provocation which made me feel like a jackass to be honest with you.
Finally I reached my office and after the regular soul sucking meetings and other scheduled f*ck i had in my list, i sat down during the lunch break by myself and began to ponder the circumstances which lead to the morning situation.
Sometimes in life we are all stressed, overworked, relationship wise fucked(be it gf/bf, hubby/wife) ,parental responsibilities, money problems, health problems, you name it,sometimes everything is crashing down on us and we tend to find a cause for that situation like every time it happened because we did or did not do something.In reality , with all of us there is fair degree of randomness associated with our destiny, that whether you believe it or not happens to us anyway. Dr Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel laureate, In his book ” Thinking Fast and Slow” has proved that there is a fair degree of randomness that we need to factor in our planning to arrive at actual statistical measurable values regarding any KPI you might have set for yourselves or your organizations.
With the above as a premise, we tend to think logically and fairly about a situation and can understand that in our lives also each of us have different destination,aim or goal we are driving ourselves to everyday.I see people competing with each other, secret cold wars within the organization that suppose to function like a well oiled machine. Heck! People having animosity within the same team to see who wins the appraisal and bonus this time.In all this crap, forgetting the very values that full fills our soul and passion for the work we do, trust, belonging, helping out each other, all the real virtues which have been forgotten in the race to the top and all I see is smiling faces with empty hearts and soul.Who did this to us? We chose to do this to ourselves. , isn’t it?
We should not compare with others as to when he/she is getting that promotion and we are stuck here as everyone has different destination.Some people are rich in their 20’s because they planned and executed their plan with the core team they trust and performed well consistently to create a startup that solves real problems of people.Why don’t everybody do that? Because everybody has different destination, some of us don’t have adequate knowledge, or we lack the required skills, or we lack the kind of trustworthy people in our lives, there are a lot of things that can be included in this but to make my point clear, i believe we all have different situations and circumstances and the quality of our aim/goal affects the nature of our situations and circumstances.So that means, if you have set your goal as to live a peaceful life, have two beautiful children, a lovely wife/hubby, a great job and plenty of holidays to spend quality time with your family then as per your situation you should be happy and content after you achieve this right??But most of us are not,WHY? BECAUSE WE CONSTANTLY KEEP COMPARING BETWEEN THE PERSON WHO HAS DIFFERENT PLANS/GOALS TO OURSELVES AND THEN FEELING INFERIOR SOMEHOW.IF YOU REALLY WANTED TO DO WHAT THAT OTHER PERSON HAS ACHIEVED YOU COULD HAVE SET THOSE GOALS BUT YOU DIDN’T BECAUSE IT HURTS DOING THE THINGS HE DID,IF YOU DO THOSE THINGS THE VERY PURPOSE OF YOUR GOAL GET ANNIHILATED, AND THEN YOU ARE LEFT CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE AND YOUR PEACE GETS DISTORTED.
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REMEMBER MAKE YOUR OWN GOALS, DON’T COMPARE YOUR GOALS TO OTHERS.IF YOU WANT THOSE OTHER GOALS ,REMEMBER LIFE WILL ASK YOU A PRICE TO PAY FOR IT, BE IT YOUR QUALITY TIME WITH FAMILY,HARD EARNED MONEY ETC.IF YOU CAN SACRIFICE THOSE THINGS, THEN ONLY GO FOR THOSE SEEMINGLY AMAZING GOALS.MAKE CONTINGENCY PLANS, IF NOT “THAT” :”THEN WHAT??” AND REMEMBER TIME WILL NEVER COME BACK, YOUR DAUGHTER ONCE GROWN WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN, YOUR HEALTH ONCE DETERIORATED WILL TAKE TIME TO GET BACK TO SHAPE AGAIN. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT AND AFTER DISCUSSION WITH YOUR FAMILY, THEN ONLY GO AHEAD WITH IT.YOU HAVE TO MAKE A WORTH – RISK ANALYSIS AND UNDERSTAND THE TIME AND WORK PRESSURES IT WILL HAVE,HOW YOUR LIFE WILL BE IMPACTED BY IT, HOW YOUR FAMILY LIFE WILL BE IMPACTED BY IT ETC.
Now, in conclusion i want to tell you a secret that our holy books have figured out much before your existence on this planet.On reaching the top or the most valuable goal of your life, STILL YOU WILL BE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING AND TO BE HONEST WITH YOU IT IS VERY LONELY AT THE TOP AND THIS CHASE WILL NEVER END. SO IF YOU FEEL FRUSTRATED CHASING YOUR GOAL RIGHT NOW, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE FRUSTRATED IN YOUR LIFE, NOTHING WILL EVER CHEER YOU UP, BECAUSE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMETHING TO CHASE.So remember, be at peace with the mission of fulfilment of your goal and if for some unlucky touch of stroke you don’t reach it, use PLAN B and be happy.For most of the people PLAN B would bring much respite than PLAN A. A great Chinese war strategist Sun Tzu said ” The first casualty of the war will be PLAN A”.So prepare for contingency, have a plan and fail safe measure for everything in life.
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